Club soccer – what drove us to return – post #1

U8 (2)
U8 club
U8 (1)
U8 club

Our daughter had played 1 year of club soccer at the age of 7 (U8 team.)  In Southern California, it’s pretty pricey to play club ball.  She wasn’t aggressive enough and was “benched” most of the time.  Since she couldn’t get better with little field time during real games, we weren’t paying for practices only, so we left.  It was ridiculous, only 7 years old…shouldn’t be benched, but encouraged to gain confidence and improve.  She got nervous on the bigger field, and  more aggressive players.

We returned back to AYSO for U9 and my husband coached Fall and Spring.  Our Spring team was amazing and our daughter had developed quite nicely.  It should have been no issue getting on the U9 Extra team.  (Fall ball was not challenging enough- she needed more)  However, in our region, the politics is insane!  Rules apply to everyone, except some families.  There was a lot of shady things that happened.  First of all, our region will only allow 1 extra team for each age division.  Meanwhile, other regions have multiple teams.

U9 (1)

Our daughter had a lot of skills and should have been a top contender.  She had the most ball control of all the girls except maybe 1, new person to our area.

Then, two girls from our team (sisters) were able to play on our Spring team because they were close in age and both Under 9.  (Ages 7 and 8)  Extra was U9 only.  However, because the dad said he’d be the commissioner for the boys U9 teams, they allowed the 7 year old to try out… meanwhile, we had another two girls (sisters) from our  same team that both went to try out, and the 7 year old was told no, she was too young.


We pointed out that we had another younger sibling trying out… the head guy of our region said it was okay for one, but not the other.

Both those girls made the extra team.  It was ridiculous.  And then the dad that ended up being the coach, picked his favorites.  So  no matter how much we volunteered in the past, and when that Commissioner called upon my husband to take on a second team, that he really didn’t want to…but helped out anyway… they pulled this BS maneuver… well, if you want to be on


the AYSO board and take that position this year… I wonder if our daughter would have made the team.  Or maybe my husband would have been the Extra team coach and then our daughter would have made it because she deserved it minus the politics.

So the other family that was told their 7 year old couldn’t try out, their eldest daughter played for the same club we did prior.  Her current coach was putting together a U10 team for his daughter and desperately needed players.  He took both those younger sisters, and wanted my daughter.  That team would have a mix of ages, and probably would lose frequently, but they would receive great training and lots of play time.

U10 - playing up age bracket
U10 – playing up age bracket

That coach played professionally both indoor and outdoor soccer.  We immediately liked his jovial personality, and he’s a loud, Irish guy from New York.  One of several boys.  He told us he didn’t care our daughter was petit, he’d train her, and she’d be good.  Thus, we returned back to the same club, but with a different coach.  Our fear of her playing up a year, was calmed because we were still building the team, and our daughter was seeing full playing time.

So far, we were happy.

This new series of posts is to chronical our club soccer journey.  This is the first post.



5 thoughts on “Club soccer – what drove us to return – post #1

    1. They aren’t even “real” try outs. They take a tiny area of the field (and I mean tiny), put like 20 girls into a tight spot and say “get the ball” – you can’t even see who has skills. Who can use their right foot and left foot. Who can trap the ball, who can pass. They just look for the most aggressive/biggest person and who they know and what’s going on in the back ground politics wise. It’s not even a real field to show their kicking skills into the net etc. It was a joke. That was recreation’s more advanced team that they only allowed 1 team, when they could have easily formed 2 teams and still been competitive with other regions. (stupid) Then club…southern CA is the worst per the people who run the national team. My hubby went to get his “E coaching license” taught by the guys in charge of National (professional) – and they were like “We put these trainings on across the US, and we’ve never seen an area be so competitive like Southern California.” They sadly shook their heads and didn’t like what they’ve seen. They want everyone to learn the skills and passion of soccer. Teaching at the level of the kids ages and what to expect. What drills they can actually do, etc.

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    1. In a nutshell, people being allowed to try out when they are too young (and require birth certificate as proof of age) they turned a blind eye for one girl. Another girl the same age, they wouldn’t let try out. The first girl made the team because her dad was doing some stuff the board wanted him to volunteer. He got both his girls on the team. Meanwhile, they only have one team- so other girls deserving (like mine, who has skills) and the proper age was turned away.

      Club will take your money, and instead of allowing all kids to play will bench your kid. So you’re paying out lots of cash for others to play in the game. (but they get the training) except this was happening at 7 years old and wasn’t suppose to at that young. Everyone is supposed to play to build up confidence on the field.


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