The main conclusion I’ve come to, Bloggers, as a whole, are a fickle lot. There are those individual sites that are the exception. However, I have discovered:
If you disappear for a tad from the blogging world to attend to business, they quickly leave you. Even if you don’t leave, but are posting regularly and visiting their sites… they stop coming to yours. Because you see,
It’s all about what you can do for ME.
1) “I’ll try simply just “liking” their post, so my photo linked to my site will show on their post. Maybe other bloggers will click to my site. If I do 100 of these a day, that should generate traffic. I’m too lazy to bother commenting, but I will still offer them my website services.”
- by placing ads on my blog
- advertise my latest book
- market this/that product or service
- request them to participate in my weekly bloggy Linky thingy and advertise my site more (with the ruse I am offering a chance to market their blogs to others, but really it’s about my site and my popularity- and request them to advertise for me, so even more people will participate in my bloggy thing.)
- While you are here, vote me the best mommy/daddy blogger, etc. Because I deserve it more than anyone else
- I’m going to nominate them for some random award that requires linking to my site. (sometimes these are legitimate “awards,” but often just advertising)
The wise blogger knows they have to spend time commenting on other’s sites to get known and generate traffic to their own site using the above methods. However, once you got them coming regularly to your site, you don’t bother visiting their sites in return any longer?
Blogger beware: Sometimes, it seems you have made “friends.” But, what I’ve discovered, even those “friends” are fleeting. You might have shared a ton of back-n-forth bantering over the last couple of months. BUT…
Once they start getting popular, maybe you have even generated other bloggers to their site… they now no longer have time to visit your world. Why waste their time, when they are busy marketing to other bloggers (being their besty until they have hooked them) to continually increase their numbers.
I laugh when bloggers always claim “I don’t know what happened. You dropped off my feed.” Although sometimes it might be the case, not all the time. Mostly, that’s a fib. That’s why you create a link to your favorite bloggers. I have a page dedicated to this so I can click and see what my favorites are up to and never rely on the wordpress Feed. I love when this excuse is used, and they follow it up with
“I’ll try to stop by when I can…” ,
…but the unsaid words are…”in the meantime, please keep coming to see my blog and comment, because your comments are so thoughtful. Please participate in my bloggy network thingy and plug my site some more.”
Some of my FAVORITE bloggers (pals) are guilty of this. Once I’ve participated and am visiting their sites often, they no longer bother with me. Or they are so WRAPPED up in their own problems. They use that as an excuse too. Oh, my world is ending, as soon as it gets better, I’ll be by… but it never happens because there is always some crazy thing going on in their life every single day. Or they do a quick “drive-by” and comment on a few of your posts to placate you…but ultimately serve as a reminder to come see them. (as they don’t want to lose their bloggers and have their visitor numbers decline.) Again, it’s all about them.
So on that note, I’m done with that. You need to stop by and see how I’m doing, too, and give thoughtful comments with no ulterior motive of advertising your site. In return, I promise not to sell you anything. However, when the winds of bloggers are with me, I can generate a lot of other bloggers to your site because I’ve spent hours visiting new bloggers who have no followers attempting new friendships. Nurturing those new friendships and then those bloggers communicate with other existing blogger pals of mine- creating a network.
That’s because my blogging purpose is trying to make friends and be a friend. I spend time trying to find other “like-minded” bloggers in the blog-o-sphere. Through friendship, I don’t mind plugging your blog (or business) because we’ve developed a rapport and I certainly want my friends to be successful.
However, don’t YOU forget who your friends are, as those bloggers that have all been flocking to your site lately, the next day- they might just disappear. Like I said, they are a fickle bunch…and if you’re not doing something for them, they are gone! Poof. Just like that. Until another day or round of bloggers joins you with the same mindset, if I be your bestie for a while, what can you do for me?