Our 9-year-old daughter, is so difficult. She has melt-downs like she is 3- years-old, mixed with the snotty ‘ness of a teenager. Once she starts crying and doesn’t get her way, she is a thorn in everyone’s side. It’s quite ridiculous. It’s best to just stop trying to reason with her, or simply stop talking to her. As any attempt at communication, winds her up all over again. So, we let it burn out, and then take away privileges, and explain why.
Our 11-year-old son, is a punk. He can’t help himself. When his sister gets in one of these moods, he likes to add fuel to that fire so that she is screaming, and literally screeching at some points. It starts off with comments under his breath. “You’re such a baby,” “No, you’re wrong,” “Geeze, why do you gotta cry.” And he will follow this up with a look or a snigger. You know he’s making a face like the Rock.
My daughter will then SCREAM, “Stop it! Stop talking. Stop Looking at me.”
This scenario happens frequently with me telling the boy, stop looking at your sister. Keep your comments to yourself. You’re not helping. (and the removal of my daughter’s privileges)
Today took the cake. The typical scenario happened inside the car. Finally, I told my son,
“Please, stop looking at your sister. You know what that does.”
“Whaaat, I’m not doing anything.” (which is code for he so TOTALLY making a face)
“Knock it off. You’re not helping the situation.”
“STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!”
“Okay, both of you look out your windows. No one look at each other. Please stop yelling, honey. Please stop making faces at your sister.”
My daughter continues unintelligibly cry-talking about some offense I or her brother have brought against her. My son replies to me:
” I’m not doing anything. I’m not looking anywhere. I got my eyes closed.”
“Don’t close your eyes and think about me!!”
OMG. Shoot me now. Please.
Flip Flops Every day 
Ooooh shit. That sucks. If it’s any consolation, my one aaaannndd ONLY child, an 11 year old BOY does what your 9 year old GIRL does. And instead of having a sibling to lash out to, he takes it all out on ME. Get your ass home and have a drink! Doctor’s orders! Love you babe! Hang in there! 😘 💋 ❤ 💜 💛 💝
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I swear, that was a new level. We went from not being able to look at her to being accused of thinking about her. We can’t win.
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Yeah, I totally know that struggle, believe me sister! Wine or beer is the ONLY CURE.
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I think I will crack a beer after I’m done. I miss you like I’ve been your neighbor before and we’ve known each other forever…and I moved away. isn’t that weird?
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It’s not weird at all. I’m telling you, we DO know each other! 😘 💖
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It’s little-known fact kids can read each other’s minds. The problem is they can’t read their own.
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I have to agree with that statement. because…
Apparently, the other KNOWS when the other didn’t really “take” a shower, but faked it.
Or they didn’t really brush their teeth. They did it too fast, they didn’t do it.
How do you know? Let me be their parent. Worry about yourself. Did you brush and floss yet?
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Whenever this happens around our house, my wife quietly looks at me and says… “What in the world was I thinking.” Sandi, do you have any idea what she means by that, I’m still puzzled? :o.
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That’s between the women. (woman power unite)
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LOL 😀
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I feel your pain! My 9 yr old son acts like your daughter sometimes. I get upset when he keeps me up at night. I have to take away the tablet and he stops. That’s his favorite thing.
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That’s exactly what we do. First it’s 30 minutes of no tablet (give them opportunity to get their emotions under control), next it’s no tablet all day (if they continue), if they are really stubborn, then it escalates to 30 minutes of no t.v. Then no t.v. or tablet all day.
With my daughter, sometimes she stays up too late and gets up too early, so she’s tired. I’ll make her lay on her bed for an hour with no electronics. That’s a battle! (ugh.) to just calm down and possibly nap.
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You’re a little more lenient than me. I take it away for the day or night and make him go to bed or read. If he’s good after school the next day, I’ll give it back after he finishes his homework. He has to do his homework first though.
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Oh, yes. The kids usually don’t get their tablet much during the week as there’s always too much homework and sports practice.
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Ah, the old “eyes closed” gambit. Nice move, Brother.
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This sounds like me and my sister (younger) at that age. I can appreciate a good sarcastic young man :)!
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Hahaha! I,too went through a slightly different phase! I used to throw tantrums at home if my sister guessed the colour of my underwear right. She would just pretend to look under my frock to annoy me and guess some random colours till she got it right and when she does..Oh boy! I would yell and cry and create a HUGE ruckus. I then would proceed to rapidly change my underwear and then walk around holding the ends of frock firmly against my legs so she wouldn’t be able to see. But then again she would guess some colour..and the whole cycle repeats. My mom reached that point where she would yell “STOP LOOKING AT HER UNDERWEAR! And you, NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR STUPID UNDERWEAR!” in public places. Ah! Fun times!
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OMG- yup undies. My daughter strips down to her shirt and underwear the minute she gets home. I’m like you are almost 10! Put on some shorts! PJ shorts/bottoms if you want… but something!
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