Our 9-year-old daughter, is so difficult. She has melt-downs like she is 3- years-old, mixed with the snotty ‘ness of a teenager. Once she starts crying and doesn’t get her way, she is a thorn in everyone’s side. It’s quite ridiculous. It’s best to just stop trying to reason with her, or simply stop talking to her. As any attempt at communication, winds her up all over again. So, we let it burn out, and then take away privileges, and explain why.
Our 11-year-old son, is a punk. He can’t help himself. When his sister gets in one of these moods, he likes to add fuel to that fire so that she is screaming, and literally screeching at some points. It starts off with comments under his breath. “You’re such a baby,” “No, you’re wrong,” “Geeze, why do you gotta cry.” And he will follow this up with a look or a snigger. You know he’s making a face like the Rock.
My daughter will then SCREAM, “Stop it! Stop talking. Stop Looking at me.”
This scenario happens frequently with me telling the boy, stop looking at your sister. Keep your comments to yourself. You’re not helping. (and the removal of my daughter’s privileges)
“Please, stop looking at your sister. You know what that does.”
“Whaaat, I’m not doing anything.” (which is code for he so TOTALLY making a face)
“Knock it off. You’re not helping the situation.”
“STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!”
“Okay, both of you look out your windows. No one look at each other. Please stop yelling, honey. Please stop making faces at your sister.”
My daughter continues unintelligibly cry-talking about some offense I or her brother have brought against her. My son replies to me:
“Don’t close your eyes and think about me!!”
OMG. Shoot me now. Please.